Convent culture

“Wanted fair, slim, beautiful Convent-educated Brahmin girl for tall, handsome Kaushik boy”

Convent schools are known for discipline and a ‘premium’ standard of education. So while their stereotyping about Christian missionaries remains well-preserved, parents are obliged to send their daughters into ‘safe’ convent hands. Fourteen years in the close-lid pan and their little angels will become ‘perfect young ladies’, they hope.

A typical convent-educated girl (young lady in convent vocabulary) is expected to be smart-looking (a ‘well-fitting’ dress or a skirt with a perfect hairdo and dainty nails), well-mannered (mannerism from around the world, exception: India) and has a good command over her language (an imported accent in English). Ironically, this is in contrast with the convent curriculum which lists out two goals – reaffirming faith in god and ‘good’, and producing a mature and fully-integrated personality. A lot of emphasis is placed on simplicity and modesty. Strict discipline ensured knee-length skirt, no fancy earrings, no nail paint, a simple hairstyle and a refined language. Following these standards, the ultimate product should have been of a humble-looking woman, an angel not a princess! So what goes wrong then?

It was an English-medium school and so speaking in Hindi was a punishable offense. Infact, even during recess, sisters were on the prowl to ensure that we were speaking in English. Once a sister had become so fed-up that she had asked us to suggest a way out! Ironically or not, English was an off-campus thing. The moment we stepped out of the campus, we started speaking in English! And the English was nowhere near what we call hinglish. Infact, even when we spoke in Hindi (school premises), we avoided words which sounded ‘weird’. It was also ‘cool’ if your Hindi was not that great! Convent schools are also supposed to have their own set of pronunciations (oxford standard, they say!). At home, I was never corrected on pronunciations. But I always made a point to tell them the ‘right’ one! Even in abusing, there was a divide. Hindi abuses were considered cheaper than their English equivalents! Coming to mannerism and culture, I remember a girl from south who used to eat rice with her hands. She was condemned for this. It was considered ‘rural’ (this has its own share of stereotypes!). Just few days back (now I am in college), I learned that this practice of eating rice with hands is actually pan-Indian! It is disillusioning as we were alienated from our own culture. Eating food with forks was not a part of our curriculum but we had all learnt it. Now comes the aspect of regionalism, people were not very keen to give the whereabouts of their village (incase, they admitted they have any!). It is a fact that Delhi hardly has ‘natives’ left. A large population hails from UP but the ancestry was hardly ever transcended beyond Meerut! The ‘rural-urban’ stereotyping was very prevalent. All this was not a part of the convent curriculum. This was never encouraged ‘directly’. But this level of elitism is a product of this.

Now comes the fundamental aspect – the gender-specific approach. Convent schools are responsible for ‘moral’ upbringing of girls, not females. There were two contrasting processes working simultaneously. Convent schools emphasis on ‘simplicity of women’. Simplicity but elegance. She should be dressed in a simple yet elegant manner (most convent schools still have skirts). Her speech should be polite. She should not shout or talk in a loud voice. This is considered non-feminine or masculine. She should be soft-spoken (society-approved standard). She should always conduct herself in a ‘lady-like’ manner. There was a particular in which we had to sit – cross-legged which is very symbolic. We walked in a smart but elegant (read feminine) way. So on one hand, they oppose ‘objectification of women’ but support feminine standards on the other. The underlying principle here is to have women venture out but within the ‘limits’. Femininity should be intact. Women should not be mere objects of attraction but it does not mean that they should cease to be ‘women’. ‘Good’ character was an integral part of our curriculum. The other gender was presented to us as “the forbidden apple!” A teacher had introduced the other gender by striking a similarity between them and honeybees! Developing crushes deserved capital punishment. There was a student whose parents were called when the teacher had found a love-letter in her bag! If your marks were low, one of the questions that you could be asked on PTMs was, “do you have a boyfriend?” Afterall, good girls do not have boyfriends. And then ofcourse, those ‘moral’ science or ‘value’ education classes where pre-marital sex was the biggest sin ever. The advantage that All-girls’/All-boys’ institutes have over co-ed institutes is the easy imparting of sex education, which is very crucial. But convent schools treat sex as a mechanism of lust and so forbidden.

School life is very important in the respect that it prepares us for the society. Convent schools enjoy a high reputation as it reflects the ideal nature of this society. Hierarchy is what sets this society. Elitism and gender-specific approach is the ideal way. Convent schools have their origin in British Raj. In the Indian context, there is western romanticism. This furthers the elitist approach in language and culture. The reason for the difference between ‘before 1’ and ‘after 1’ convent girl is that the society accepts stereotypical girls. Convent school tries to ‘liberate’ them but then they also have certain societal demands to meet. But since it does make a turn, it can become an important institute for fighting these forces of inequalities. If only it reduces its emphasis on divine intervention (what Don Bosco has to say about becoming a good student, child) and starts giving out reasons (some of which actually talk about equality!), it can really have women break those shells. Convent schools have been very successful in proving the worth of women. Women are as capable as men. But just liberating women economically is not enough. But without social equality, it is incomplete. so together with the high-standard education that it provides, it should also give out social (not moral) education. Convent schools have a very secular atmosphere. Convent schools are also renowned for social work. So even as it made conscious attempts to refine the society, it ended up becoming the epitome of this unjust and unequal society.


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6 comments on “Convent culture

  1. What convent schools are for girls is, like a whole range of socio -economic and cultural principles guiding good citizens, who are expected to behave as though expressing dissent were the biggest crime against the nation.


  2. yes exactly. infact girls' education was started with the aim to present them in a particular feminine, society-approved way.


  3. Education, must be a process, not just an event which can be outsourced to a school.Definitely schools must have responsibility, but Home, Environment, and Media do play equally important role. Its time that we start looking at their roles also.But everywhere, i maintain 1 common strategy for education : Practice Happily what you Preach. Dont display your knowledge through your oratory skills. Dont lecture, just share. Dont direct, Just do.


  4. sunita says:

    i want to know ,education is same in convent – english mediem school ?


    • The convent, english medium schools follow the same state prescribed curriculum. There are some changes in the culture of the school. Like, there used to be catechism classes for christian students, moral science for non-christians. We used to celebrate all festivals but ofcourse, christmas and easter had greater importance. There definitely was a christian influence in the environment, our prayer.. but that shouldn’t really be an issue because most schools tend to be inclined towards a certain religion. Infact, i liked that I was able to learn about a new religion, could appreciate the rich diversity of India..


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